7 Rules To Escape The “Average Girl” Trap

Ready to stop blending in and start leading your life with power and clarity?

We walk through eight practical rules that move you out of the “average girl” trap and into a bolder, more magnetic version of yourself—without the fluff or clichés. From taking radical responsibility to setting non‑negotiable standards, we show how small, focused shifts create momentum you can feel and results you can measure.

The world doesn’t need another copy; it needs a clear original—and that’s you.

If this message hits home, tap follow, share it with someone who needs a push, and tell us which rule you’re starting today. Your extraordinary life is waiting—claim it now.

Chapters

• 0:00 Breaking The Average Trap
• 0:48 Rule 1: Radical Responsibility
• 2:07 Rule 2: Set Non‑Negotiable Standards
• 3:13 Rule 3: Ditch External Validation
• 4:03 Rule 4: Invest In Yourself
• 5:00 Rule 5: Upgrade Your Inner Circle
• 5:38 Rule 6: Master Your Mindset
• 6:33 Rule 7: Choose Bold, Consistent Action
• 7:16 Rule 8: Own Your Uniqueness
• 8:44 Closing: Courage, Authenticity, Action

Transcript

SPEAKER_00: 0:00

Hey amazing souls. Have you ever felt like you're just blending in? Like no matter what you do, you're stuck in that average girl rut. So today we're going to break that cycle. I'm going to give you eight powerful rules to escape the average girl trap and step into a life that is bold, magnetic, and unstoppable. But before we dive in, let me ask you this question. How many of you were tired of playing it small, hiding your brilliance, and watching life pass by while the other women shine? If that's you, hit that like button, follow, and let's get real. Welcome back to the Self Health Podcast. I'm your host, Tipali, and today's episode is personally one of my favorite things to talk about, which is escaping the trap. So here's the harsh truth. Being average often starts with excuses. Excuses about your past, your circumstances, situations, your abilities, or your restrictions. But the first rule is simple take radical responsibility for your life. Let me tell you a quick story. I had a friend, I'm not gonna name her, of course, who constantly blamed everything on her job, on the city, sometimes the country, even her friends. She felt trapped. Then one day she said, Enough. I'm responsible for my own happiness. And everything changed. She started learning new skills, meeting new people, and as a result, creating more opportunities. And within a year, she completely transformed her life. Actionable step today, write down three areas of your life where you feel stuck. For each, ask what part of this can I control? Then take one small action immediately. Radical responsibility isn't about blame, it's about taking your power back. It's about power. Now, girls settle, they tolerate mediocrity in relationships and careers and even in themselves. But you don't need to be that. You are not average. So to escape this, you must set some non-negotiable standards. Think about this. Are you accepting toxic friendships, bad habits, or half-hearted efforts? Stop. Define your non-negotiables, your boundaries in love, work and self-respect, and never ever compromise. So there was this one woman who young woman who stayed in a draining job because it was comfortable, because it felt familiar and it wasn't challenging her. But she finally gathered the courage and defined her standards, quit and started a business that she loved. Within months, she was thriving and not just surviving. So here's a quick exercise for you. Write down five non-negotiables for yourself in every area of your life. Every area. And be honest, be brutally honest. Keep them visible and let them be your guide. And when you keep them visible and you keep them apparent, they guide your decision making. The thing is, a lot of women, most of the women, fall trap into validation. They seek validation from others. Likes, compliments, approval. The escape. Simple. Stop seeking external validation and become your own cheerleader. Now notice I said simple, I didn't say it's easy. Your worth is not a reflection of others' opinions about you. Think of it this way: if you wait for someone else to tell you you're amazing, you will always be average. Own your brilliance, celebrate your wins, and be your biggest fan. Adamina, I once knew, posted about a project online. And of course, she was nervous about criticism like most of us. But she reminded herself, I did this for me, not for anybody else. And that mindset shift, it attracted real opportunities and not just empty phrases. And you can always make the difference between the two. Can you? We always do. We listen to our gut. The thing is, we can start journaling our wins. No matter how small, every day. Reaffirm. I am enough, I'm capable, and I'm extraordinary. And we should not be waiting for life to hand opportunities. And the keys to invest in yourself rather than less. So exceptional women create opportunities by investing in themselves, learning new skills, developing your mind, bringing peace to your chaos, your health, your personal brand. Now, this is your edge. I invested in a six-month course, like a rather tough thing for me to do at that point. That changed a lot of things about how I look at my career. People thought it was too much, too expensive, too risky. But that investment returned tenfold because I drew my confidence network and skill set. So pick up one skill or habit to invest in this month. Come with time, energy, and maybe even money to become the best version of yourself. You have to surround yourself with people who push you. I have seen most women often sticking with people who keep them safe. And I have been there too. Validating those credentials. Escaping this trap by surrounding yourself with people who push you, who inspire you, who uplift you, and who brings out the best in you, but also challenge you. I once had a friend who joined a mastermind group filled with ambitious women. I think there were a couple of ambitious women out there. The energy, the ideas, the accountability propelled her beyond anything that she could do alone. So please evaluate your inner circle. Who lifts you up? Who drags you down? Whom do you feel happy with? Recharged, rejuvenated, and not like drained, doubting, second doubting, questioning your own worth and energy. Seek mentors, join groups, and consciously choose the relationships that only expand you, not limit you. And your mindset goes without saying, defines your life. Average girls let fear, doubt, and scarcity run the show. And exceptional women make it different. They master their own mind, they master their own mindset, they reframe failures. And I want to be that too. They embrace growth and see challenges as opportunities and do different things that take them out of their comfort zone every single day. So a friend of mine failed her first business. Of course, that's normal. It's okay, it's okay to fail. But most of us would quit. But she learned from her mistakes, adjusted, and launched again, but this time successfully. Mindset made all the difference. So what we can do is do the daily mindset work, affirmations, meditation, whatever helps you. Meeting new people, seeking ideas, asking for help. It's very much okay to say, I don't know, and I'm struggling. Can you please help me with this? Train your brain to see possibilities, not limitations. Average girls wait for the perfect moment. Most of us do that, don't we? We wait for the perfect moment. Extraordinary women take bold action consistently. And there are some days where you'll slap, that's fine too. But progress beats perfection every single time. If you want to write a book, don't wait for inspiration. Write maybe 100, 200 words daily and then move it to 500, 1000 words. And within a year, you can publish your first bestseller. Action becomes your superpower. So choose one bold step today, apply, call, create, start, and commit to doing it daily. And finally, please. And I think this is the ultimate rule. This is the goal one here. Own your uniqueness. Your quirks, your personality, your laughter, your beautiful smile, which you think is quirky, and it is, are all unique to you. They are your superpowers. Don't try to fit into someone else's mold or any Eurocentric standards of beauty. You define beautiful. Only when you be you. The word doesn't need another another copy. It needs you unapologetically. All of you. In whatever way and shape and form you are. Just that. I have been that woman who was terrified to show her quirky authentic self at work. But when I did, I became acceptable by many, many team members. I came across as a thought leader. I gained recognition and an opportunity that I could never have imagined. Just by being authentic, just by being myself. For me, it was okay to crack a lame joke in the middle of the call. Of course, if the situation allows. And also it was okay for me to reach out to the members and ask how they are doing. Because that makes me who I am. I want to know how you're doing and what's what's up, what's not been on your mind lately, and just not talk about work all the time. I would want to develop that relationship, that personal bond. So you feel safe while working with me. You feel like, okay, we have another human working with me. So accept yourself as who you are and the world will accept you. What you can do is identify three things that make you uniquely you. And while I'm speaking this into the microphone, I think about it myself. What are the three things that you have that makes you uniquely you? Amplify them, share them and embrace your authentic power. So there you have it. And remember, life rewards courage, authenticity, and relentless action. Start today. Your extraordinary life is waiting for you. So go claim it. Thank you so much. And if this episode inspired you, please give it a thumbs up, share it with a friend or your partner, whoever you think needs it, and subscribe, follow for more such transformative content. And comment below, let me know which role resonated the most with you. I can't wait to hear your stories. And until next time, stay bold, stay unstoppable, and never ever settle for average. Thank you and bye bye.